We are independent & ad-supported. We may earn a commission for purchases made through our links.
Advertiser Disclosure
Our website is an independent, advertising-supported platform. We provide our content free of charge to our readers, and to keep it that way, we rely on revenue generated through advertisements and affiliate partnerships. This means that when you click on certain links on our site and make a purchase, we may earn a commission. Learn more.
How We Make Money
We sustain our operations through affiliate commissions and advertising. If you click on an affiliate link and make a purchase, we may receive a commission from the merchant at no additional cost to you. We also display advertisements on our website, which help generate revenue to support our work and keep our content free for readers. Our editorial team operates independently of our advertising and affiliate partnerships to ensure that our content remains unbiased and focused on providing you with the best information and recommendations based on thorough research and honest evaluations. To remain transparent, we’ve provided a list of our current affiliate partners here.

What is Approval Addiction?

By Erin J. Hill
Updated May 17, 2024
Our promise to you
WiseGeek is dedicated to creating trustworthy, high-quality content that always prioritizes transparency, integrity, and inclusivity above all else. Our ensure that our content creation and review process includes rigorous fact-checking, evidence-based, and continual updates to ensure accuracy and reliability.

Our Promise to you

Founded in 2002, our company has been a trusted resource for readers seeking informative and engaging content. Our dedication to quality remains unwavering—and will never change. We follow a strict editorial policy, ensuring that our content is authored by highly qualified professionals and edited by subject matter experts. This guarantees that everything we publish is objective, accurate, and trustworthy.

Over the years, we've refined our approach to cover a wide range of topics, providing readers with reliable and practical advice to enhance their knowledge and skills. That's why millions of readers turn to us each year. Join us in celebrating the joy of learning, guided by standards you can trust.

Editorial Standards

At WiseGeek, we are committed to creating content that you can trust. Our editorial process is designed to ensure that every piece of content we publish is accurate, reliable, and informative.

Our team of experienced writers and editors follows a strict set of guidelines to ensure the highest quality content. We conduct thorough research, fact-check all information, and rely on credible sources to back up our claims. Our content is reviewed by subject-matter experts to ensure accuracy and clarity.

We believe in transparency and maintain editorial independence from our advertisers. Our team does not receive direct compensation from advertisers, allowing us to create unbiased content that prioritizes your interests.

Approval addiction is a term used to describe a condition in which someone puts pleasing others above his or her own needs. This can have a profound effect on the person’s happiness and can sometimes lead to poor choices and bad behavior if the person is surrounded by “toxic” individuals who engage in harmful activities. The term is used to describe both those with a clinical condition and a less severe form of “people pleasing.”

Similar to alcohol or drug addiction, those who suffer from clinical approval addiction need the high, or “feel good” effects, from making others happy. Doing for others is not in itself a bad thing, but it becomes a problem when providing for the needs and wants of others comes before one's own needs. Sufferers of this condition often neglect themselves and give everything from time, money, possessions, and loyalty to others above all else. This is always a problem, but it can become life-threatening if the people in the sufferer’s life are engaging in harmful or risky behavior and encouraging him or her to do the same.

There is generally a more traumatic underlying cause which leads to approval addiction. This can range from low self-esteem to emotional or physical abuse. Much like those who self-medicate with alcohol or drugs, approval addicts need the love and adoration of others in order to feel worthy. The need for approval from everyone leads to self sacrifice and an abandonment of the true self in order for the addict to “become” what everyone else expects or wants.

Anyone suffering from an approval addiction should seek the help of a licensed therapist. As with other addictions, therapy will generally involve discussing any past events which may have led to the addiction and developing healthier ways of coping with uncomfortable feelings. Therapy can be strenuous and may bring up painful situations, but the end result is the ability to live more authentically.

Without treatment, patients may continue to live in denial of who they really are. The consequences of this vary based on the severity of the condition, but they may include feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness, depression, and even suicidal thoughts or behavior.

Those with a much less severe form of approval addiction, commonly known as “people pleasers,” may have many of the same issues as those with a clinical addiction. Therapy may also benefit these people, although sometimes devices like self-help books or tapes combined with supportive friends or family can cure lesser forms of this condition.

WiseGeek is dedicated to providing accurate and trustworthy information. We carefully select reputable sources and employ a rigorous fact-checking process to maintain the highest standards. To learn more about our commitment to accuracy, read our editorial process.
Discussion Comments
By truman12 — On Jun 06, 2012

Is approval addiction something with an actual medical diagnosis or is it just a piece of pop psychology?

I have seen so many trends come and go that try to explain why people do the things they do and most of them are unhelpful and opportunistic. I have a sneaky suspicion that there is some approval addiction book that someone is trying to peddle.

By jonrss — On Jun 06, 2012

What is so bad about approval addiction? It seems to me like more people should strive to be like this. It might lead to a more civil world. These days it is almost a badge of honor to be not liked. What have we become as a culture and a species when people sneer at the world and are swollen with pride while doing it?

By chivebasil — On Jun 05, 2012

I do know if I qualify as an approval addict but I am definitely diplomatic to a fault. I try to respect and acknowledge both sides of any argument and I often avoid taking sides so that I do not upset or offend anyone. Most of the time this is a good thing, but it can also make me look and feel like I have no back bone.

But, on the flip side, I know some people who are very opinionated and do not reserve their judgements for anyone. It is almost like it is their goal to offend. I am not sure that my behavior is any worse than theirs.

WiseGeek, in your inbox

Our latest articles, guides, and more, delivered daily.

WiseGeek, in your inbox

Our latest articles, guides, and more, delivered daily.