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What are Some Online Dating Safety Tips?

Tricia Christensen
Tricia Christensen
Tricia Christensen
Tricia Christensen

Dating online and then meeting dates in real life can open up new relationship possibilities. Some people like the relative ease of getting to know people on the Internet because they can find people who share more of their interests than they would off the Internet. It’s still a type of dating that needs to be treated with caution, especially since you don’t have some of the normal safeguards that you would in “real life” or “meatspace” encounters. It’s wise to observe some online dating safety tips to protect yourself.

A few online dating safety tips or bits of knowledge you should probably commit to memory are the following:

    People may not send you accurate pictures of themselves.
    People may not represent themselves truthfully (marital status, employment status, appearance, etc).
    You are less likely to have trouble if you use an online dating service that performs criminal background checks.
Someone who is going on a date with someone they met over the internet should tell a friend or family member where they plan on going.
Someone who is going on a date with someone they met over the internet should tell a friend or family member where they plan on going.

There are other online dating safety tips to bear in mind. One is you should give little information about yourself when you first meet someone online. You can decide whether or not you want to pick a name that is gender-specific, but unless you want a lot of sexual attention, avoid names that are sexually based or inappropriate. When you’re getting to know people, don’t disclose nonessential details like where you live, your last name, where you work or your phone number. If you want to chat with someone, you can give a first name and a general idea of where you live, like what state or region you live in.

Online dating can lead to heartbreak if expectations aren't clear.
Online dating can lead to heartbreak if expectations aren't clear.

One of the most important of online dating safety tips is to take things slowly when you meet a new person online. Enjoy getting to converse with them in print and be wary of things that seem like inconsistencies in other people’s statements. Once you’ve had a reasonable amount of time, perhaps a month or two at the least, to get to know someone, you can determine whether you want to take the relationship to an offline one.

Couples on a first date should moderate their alcohol consumption.
Couples on a first date should moderate their alcohol consumption.

Another of the online dating safety tips is to start by getting the person’s phone number that you’d like to meet offline. If you want to give out your phone number, consider giving out a cellphone number only. Home phone numbers can be searched using reverse directories to determine your location, and you can’t be certain that a person you’ve met online is being honest or has your best interests at heart. In fact, you should probably have a high level of distrust until proven otherwise by the person you are meeting. When you make your first call, block your number so it can’t be read by the person you’re calling, or call from a payphone or cellphone.

People who have met online often attend a movie as part of a first date because it allows them to get to know each other in a public area.
People who have met online often attend a movie as part of a first date because it allows them to get to know each other in a public area.

Again, take a phone relationship slow, and use it to verify things about the person. Keep looking for inconsistencies and discontinue the relationship if you find them, or if you feel any red flags or sense any problems. Eventually the online relationship may progress to people wanting to meet and you should observe caution here too.

Plan to meet in a public place and you might want to bring one or more people with you. If you go alone, be certain someone else knows where you will be and exactly how long you will be gone. Carry a cellphone and do not plan to go anywhere nonpublic on a first or second meeting. If the person turns out to have been deceptive, leave quickly, and if you fear for your safety, call the police.

When dating someone from the internet, it's wise to have the first date in a public place.
When dating someone from the internet, it's wise to have the first date in a public place.

Online dating can complicate first meetings with people, but if you stick to a few online dating safety tips, you can make this process safer. There are plenty of people who are wonderful folks and just find online dating more convenient. However, the few bad apples that have bad intentions need to always be considered and you should take steps to make sure that you minimize potential contact with these people.

Tricia Christensen
Tricia Christensen

Tricia has a Literature degree from Sonoma State University and has been a frequent EasyTechJunkie contributor for many years. She is especially passionate about reading and writing, although her other interests include medicine, art, film, history, politics, ethics, and religion. Tricia lives in Northern California and is currently working on her first novel.

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Tricia Christensen
Tricia Christensen

Tricia has a Literature degree from Sonoma State University and has been a frequent EasyTechJunkie contributor for many years. She is especially passionate about reading and writing, although her other interests include medicine, art, film, history, politics, ethics, and religion. Tricia lives in Northern California and is currently working on her first novel.

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Discussion Comments

anon107745

I think the most important thing is to keep your private info even sometimes it is hard to do it. Taking things slow is the best way to do it, have a few bad experiences about.

anon79016

Never give out your personal cell phone number to a stranger or anyone you're not sure you're going to be friends with for quite some time! Check out the guys at VphonePro. You can add a 2nd phone number to your current cell phone; any area code, any carrier, any phone.

anon43877

until your date makes away with your checkbook. Some favor romance above all; I tend to favor practicality and not becoming a victim. There's still plenty of room for meeting nice folks online, without abandoning caution.

anon43663

There's no need to do background checks for online dating! If you choose a reputable site, then you are fine. Meet in a public place the first time-- that's the only precaution. But don't be paranoid. Go out and meet some people and have fun. The whole idea of dating is lost in paranoid stuff like background checks!

Rose, Writer.

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    • Someone who is going on a date with someone they met over the internet should tell a friend or family member where they plan on going.
      Someone who is going on a date with someone they met over the internet should tell a friend or family member where they plan on going.
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